Comments on: Keeping Secrets http://mftawk.today.com/2009/03/17/keeping-secrets/ A Parenting Place Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:31:28 +0000 http://www.today.com/version-2.3.1 By: quadmama http://mftawk.today.com/2009/03/17/keeping-secrets/#comment-115 quadmama Wed, 18 Mar 2009 16:04:54 +0000 http://mftawk.today.com/2009/03/17/keeping-secrets/#comment-115 Make sure your son knows the difference between a secret and a surprise, which might be hard at that age. If he wants you to keep a "secret" about a surprise he has planned for Dad, then let him know that's ok, but if it's something he doesn't want Dad to know (he might get in trouble or whatever) then that's not ok. You make a good point, though, what happens if your son simply feels more comfortable confiding in one parent than the other? Make sure your son knows the difference between a secret and a surprise, which might be hard at that age. If he wants you to keep a “secret” about a surprise he has planned for Dad, then let him know that’s ok, but if it’s something he doesn’t want Dad to know (he might get in trouble or whatever) then that’s not ok. You make a good point, though, what happens if your son simply feels more comfortable confiding in one parent than the other?

]]> By: Hubby http://mftawk.today.com/2009/03/17/keeping-secrets/#comment-114 Hubby Wed, 18 Mar 2009 14:11:21 +0000 http://mftawk.today.com/2009/03/17/keeping-secrets/#comment-114 I think it's great that you are so dedicated to being a good mom that you take the time so seek out as much information as you can for things like this. I want to know what is going on with the kids always, but at times, like you said, they will want to confide in one or the other of us for some things. When they are little it's easy for them to trust is and as the grow older paramount for us to instill in them the fact they can trust us with anything - By keeping their little harmless secrets now it helps establish special bonds between the individual child and that parent (and they will come to both of us eventually) and hopefully these bonds will make it easier in the long run for them to come to us with the really important things that we as parents really need to know. Thanks for being a great Mom and Wife!! Andy I think it’s great that you are so dedicated to being a good mom that you take the time so seek out as much information as you can for things like this.

I want to know what is going on with the kids always, but at times, like you said, they will want to confide in one or the other of us for some things.

When they are little it’s easy for them to trust is and as the grow older paramount for us to instill in them the fact they can trust us with anything - By keeping their little harmless secrets now it helps establish special bonds between the individual child and that parent (and they will come to both of us eventually) and hopefully these bonds will make it easier in the long run for them to come to us with the really important things that we as parents really need to know.

Thanks for being a great Mom and Wife!!
Andy

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